Thanks for tagging me in, @cedric
I’m not sure I have a better answer to cultivating a long-term obsession than the essay you already wrote. Because I think what @paul is effectively asking is “How do I find personal PMF?” If you cultivate an obsession that has no value to others, then it may make a nice hobby but it can not be the basis of projects and pursuits. Partner, maybe, if they share the obsession.
So how do you find personal PMF (similar to the Japanese concept of ikigai)? Experiment. A lot. See what gains traction. Don’t make any bets you can’t afford to lose (this is why I like Cedric’s travel example, because it implies that you are planning to travel anyway, so you aren’t losing seed capital you can’t afford to lose). Stay in the game until something you want to do connects to the market.
One corollary to the essay is that the way to accelerate through the Idea Maze is to develop the capability to experiment faster and at lower cost. One of my good friends is convinced this is the key skill to finding PMF - the team that can experiment faster will always win: Seppo Helava on LinkedIn: Two conversations over the last two days have really driven the point home… and Seppo Helava on LinkedIn: #productdevelopment
That being said, I think there are often clues in your history as to your long-term obsession. People have likely been telling you what it is in your professional feedback. The projects at work that you are most proud of, the times at work you were energized and excited to come to work, those are your clues if you can connect the dots.
15 years ago, the team I was on got a new manager, who observed the team in action for a couple weeks to understand the dynamics. He came to me and said “Eric, you’re the guy that everybody goes to when they get stuck and don’t know what to do - you’re my new #2”. At the time, I was delighted and thought that meant I was on track to be a good manager. But what I figured out (ten years later) is that my actual obsession is with coaching others, and helping them figure out their own path. Once I leaned into that five years ago, things unfolded much more rapidly than they did for the first 20 years of my career, because I was personally aligned with my job in a way I hadn’t been before.
To continue the theme of test faster, once I identified coaching as a possible job, I didn’t just quit my Google job and become a coach. I ran a set of experiments to reduce risk and test PMF.
- I coached friends and acquaintances for free to see if I liked doing it.
- I interviewed several professional coaches to get their advice on the road ahead and next steps.
- I took a year long coaching training program to get professionally certified (and confirm that I’d still like it if I was immersed in it).
- I started a coaching side business to see if people would pay me to do it.
- Even when I quit Google, I had a couple years of savings in the bank and gave myself a deadline of making enough to cover my costs in a year and a half or I’d have to go get a job.
Each experiment derisked the path and increased my confidence it was a good fit. But it started with small tests I could do in an hour a week. So figure out what those experiments are and stop making excuses for not finding a new path
Don’t know if I’ve actually answered the question at this point, but maybe there’s something in there that will spark a response.